Monday 27 June 2016

Being the Proverbs 31 woman...#fiercenation

Virtuous or not? Proverbs 31; ladies the world ain't gonna tell you but I preach it as it is. To all the beautiful queens we are, we've known and we'll raise. To the #fiercenation. 

Nina Simone must be turning in her grave with all these twerking queens and heroines who actually outnumber virtuous women. Well, every female I know at the end of the day wants a ring on the finger but sweetheart how are you goin’ to get that if you acting like you don’t want to be wifed? Everyone’s job is no one’s job, everyone’s woman is nobody’s woman. I know I champion for women and I love women (In all the non-gay ways) but truth be told we cannot go on encouraging our daughters and sisters to depend on seventy year old moustaches in the name of feminine power. 


We are powerful, damn we are, but how the hell will we prove this to the world if we keep party hopping, cocaine snorting, booty competing and bleaching our asses pale? We need to act up ladies, the world is ours and from one queen to another we run this. Queens, never forget that our crowns are worth more than a thousand gems, so please start acting like it. Not peasants and y’all must very well know queens are women of value, responsibility, beauty and as Janice puts it ‘Fierce’.
So to my dear ladies are you the Proverbs 31 woman or nah? Here are the pointers.
·         You have to feel valuable.
As Proverbs 31: 10 says,”…her worth is far above rubies.” The beauty of this is that as a woman you should learn self love and appreciation before expecting the world to love you. Yes, it’s quite difficult I know, but walking around with 10 kgs of makeup and false everything from head to toe does not make up for the emptiness inside. Before you go around expecting a king to bow to you, give him something worth bowing for.
·         Trust is key.
I know this may sound a little old fashioned but if you’re dating a whole football team in the name of being a ‘player’ you might as well call it quits in the ring race. You see men are like babies; they want something they get it or cry all the way till you give them a replacement. Sunshine, learn to earn trust and respect; not only for your beautiful body but for the prize you really are. You are not everybody’s possession. Get one single man to love you and let trust hold you together closer, tighter and much more firmer than fake nails on a model. And love it!
·         Queens must learn Independence.
Not my words but truly my opinion; Prov 31:14 & 15. I know we all think of the man as a provider but essentially this particular verse encourages women to ‘bring food from afar.’ Just so we are clear; no ‘sponsors’, no sleeping around with bosses to get that promotion, no time for gossiping, basically no dilly dallying. As a queen, in the eyes of the very High, you must learn the art of providing. This also includes getting up early. Basically up before him and for him. Brace it, shock on all of the female race. We sure are stronger and capable of much more than we think.
Never let what a man bring to the table be all you have to eat. Go out, sweat it. I know you might actually think that the man in your life got this but he ain’t. Kings are poor rulers without queens while we can move mountains by a single illusion. So darlings: pay the bills once in a while, surprise your man with expensive gifts, clothe him, and ensure that he’s well fed and encouraged day by day. In this cruel world be his peace, be his escape, be his heart and trust me nothing works better than a man knowing his queen got his back.
I know this particular point is hard to comprehend especially when we are used to be on the receiving end but if that’s what a virtuous woman does, I’ll be damned if I don’t.
·         Honorable, wise and kindness are a calling.
Back to my beef with the image we women have allowed ourselves to proclaim. Sweethearts, how do you expect a man to love you if there’s nothing to your personality? I agree getting naked can get you some likes a range rover even but deep inside are you a blossoming flower or some ramp of dirt? If your words can not come out as kind, your actions wise and general outlook kind, sweetheart you’ll be waiting a loooong time for that piece of rock!!
·         There’s this thing called goodness.

As women earning trust goes a long way. If you’ve been cheated on my apologies; been there, done that and I know no feeling is worse. Now imagine doing that to your man. That ain’t good. Part of being the Proverbs 31 woman is telling good from bad, earning honor for your man and keeping it real 100%. Do note it’s your man I’m talking about. If you steal a man and act like you won a lottery; you’re stupid. Just like you stole him, he’ll be stolen again and I mean what kind of idiot would leave his queen for some tramp? So dear queens, embrace goodness in all you do and who knows it might just come back to you!!

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